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Nashville, February 10th, 2019 - Yesterday, after my own set, I was watching Georgia Middleman and Gary Burr's set at All About Z Music house concert in Franklin, TN. Georgia was talking about the journey of dreams. How you set out with dreams and goals in mind and some come true and some don't.
This really hit home for me. I came to the States almost 9 years ago now, with dreams and goals in mind and started immediately working towards them. Along the way they became refined. I started realizing that I was a beacon, a light that some people look at as a "she's following her dreams, I can do it too". An inspiration, with how many obstacles (inner and outer) I have had to overcome to get there, most of which I'm not sure anyone but my closest actually knows. I have made a business out of "follow your dreams" by doing it myself.
But one of the things that Georgia said, that cracked me wide open was how the dreams can change. This was leading into a song with an "if my dreams had all come true, I wouldn't have met you"-theme. (Those aren't the actual lyrics, but that was the gist of it). This hit me deeply because after coming here, finding my way, refining my message and keep going for it - over time, my dreams change. I change. And lately, I've been doing the inner work of "who am I now?"...
Welcome to my Blog. It is going to be living on Patreon, but will be free for everyone for the time being. Hope you enjoy!
As I am writing this, I am on tour with my new band Josephine the Volcano. Last night we had a night off and spent it in deep conversation. Especially exciting because we didn’t all know each other equally well when we embarked on this journey.
We have all been bringing songs to the project for sharing and developing together. Olivia came with this awesome arrangement of the classic “Sail Away Ladies” but gave the disclaimer: “This or something better” explaining that she would love suggestions to improve this arrangement of the song. This has become somewhat of a mantra for us, musically. But yesterday we talked about this mantra as a life tool.
“This or something better”. This is a saying I’ve used a lot. It comes from wanting a balance between planning and taking control of your goals and your future and simultaneously being absolutely ok with however things turn out. The balance between wanting something SO BAD but still being absolutely ok with not getting it. These seem like two opposites to most people.
But I can explain how it is not. My theory is that the “easiest” road (read: simplest, most direct route, path of least resistance) to creating a life of your dreams or a life of your own design is having the strongest desire for the thing you are wanting (aka "most want”) and the least attachment to actually getting it (aka “least attachment”). So the perfect balance is the most want with the least attachment.
But if I really want something, how can I be unattached to whether or not I get it?...
Lately I've been really grossed out by some of the trends in Country Music. It seems to me that the effort of bringing more equality into country music has been skewed. In stead of focusing on the best female artists out there, it seems more focus is being put on the best looking female artists out there.
Don't get me wrong, I think it's great when an amazing female artists gets to rise to her potential. If she happens to also look nice, more power to her! I especially like hearing when these awesome ladies are genuinely good people.
What bothers me is when I see someone with mediocre (or sometimes downright awful) so-called talent get put ahead of the actually wonderfully talented ones, because of skinny tummies and pretty faces. When the way you look overshadows the art you make, we are on the wrong track.
I long for more female artists, especially in country music, since this is where my heart lies. When I see a talented lady out there rocking it, I jump for joy! But I'm not interested in the quest for adding more girls if it's going to be another objectifying fest. Then we might as well listen to more bro-country and snap open another beer.
Feeling through all of this I remembered a song by Trisha Yearwood "Real Live Woman". This song totally encompasses how I feel we should listen to music. Forget the hype, don't believe the billboards - listen with your heart.